I have found that forgiveness is a solid way of saying to the other person;
“I am bigger, I am stronger and I can do better”. It’s making a promise to yourself and saying “I’ll get past this”. It’s saying to yourself and the other person, “Lets try again”
It is also a way of saying; “I care more about you than temporary feelings of hurt and disappointment”
When you forgive those who have hurt you, you not only free yourself of the poison that is called bitterness, you also liberate the person who offended you. In the process, some people will marvel at the gift of forgiveness when it’s been extended to them, they will tend to stand in awe of you, most times, they take care not to hurt you again. They learn to forgive others, and they appreciate.
Now, there’re those who have fallen so down below that they really couldn’t be bothered by the fact that you might be better. These folks are the ones who wallow in shallow mindedness and enjoy distributing hurt and trying to spread their anger and sense of worthlessness.
There are those who neither bother to look up nor are concerned with the subject of betterment, of being a better person.
There are those who will label you a “fool” and mock your kindness and your gift. There are those who will try to hurt you again and again. I’m sure in this case, you will know exactly what to do, while not withholding the gift of forgiveness.
Yes, I’m sure you know to remove yourself far from these kinds. You will know to cut them off.
Forgiving sometimes could be tough. It might sound so simple, but, it is anything but that. Sometimes, it might even look unfair.
Then you should remember, like my mum always said, “Nobody promised you simple or fair, but in the end, my dear, your peace of mind is worth it!”
And, hasn’t it been said that not forgiving the people who hurt you is like drinking poison and expecting the other to die. The only person who will feel awful about your bitterness and anger is you. The other might not even be aware of how you still feel, and even if he or she does, most likely they wouldn’t care.
So, do yourself a favour. Start today to master the art of forgiveness. For your good and in your own best interest.
It requires a conscious and constant effort to decide where you want to be, who you want to be identified with, as well who you want to influence that decision.
“…but, in the end, your peace of mind is worth it” Every single time.
